Tuesday, January 17, 2006
I swear to god, I'm almost done going on about The Redneck Manifesto, but you have to understand it's the first book I've read for fun in months, so it's stuck in my craw. It's not the greatest book in the world and Goad isn't the greatest person in the world, but I feel like someone has turned on another dim bulb in the poorly lit basement of my life. Until I adjust to the new things I'm noticing, we're going to have to rehash. But, let's take a look at another article about the mysteries of feminism at Salon.com. Kate O'Beirne has written this book, Women Who Make the World Worse, which is about the ways that feminism has ruined America. You can read the interview for yourself, but basically it's all "Women don't want to work. They want to stay home and raise their kids. It's their nature." and "But shouldn't women have the same opportunities as men if they want them?" and "Only if you want a world in which it's okay for men to hit women." And it dawned on me as I was reading this that nothing in this discussion applies to me. I don't have to have an opinion about it* because, as far as I'm concerned, this is some fairy-tale world of money and resources and options beyond which I can even imagine. Let's just take the "Woman stays at home and raises the kids" issue. Let's say, for the sake of easy math**, that I make $100 a month. To run my household and pay off all my vast debts and eat, I need $150 a month. Hence one reason I have the Butcher. And let's say that I meet a man and we fall in love and get married. For me to continue to live in my luxurious lifestyle, he just needs to make $50 a month and we're breaking even every month as a household. If he also makes $100 a month, we can get a little ahead and buy some things like shoes or a new orange jacket. But say we decide to have kids. And let's just say that this adds $50 a month to our household expenses. Now, the household needs to bring in $200 a month for us all to eat and sleep and shit with a roof over our heads. Do you see where I'm going with this? If I'm going to stay home and raise kids, with my household expenses and personal debt, I have to marry someone who makes at least twice as much as me for that to even enter the realm of possibility. How is that going to happen? To even have a discussion about whether a woman is going to stay home with her kids requires a household income beyond my ability to imagine, let alone negotiate. So, giving two shits about what wealthy women do in their day-to-day life is a waste of my time. Go to your cushy lawyer job. Stay home with your kids. Snipe at each other about which is the more "just" or more "natural" choice. It's all the same to me. *Though, of course, I find it funny that the anti-feminist woman makes such a big deal out of making sure we know she could have made more money than her husband if she wanted to. **Which, yes, I will probably fuck up anyway. I'll be counting on you more mathematically inclined to correct me if I'm wrong.